Is The Modern Man Working Harder Than Those From The Previous Generation?

Written by Andre L Booysen

Though the definition of "working hard" has changed considerably, the concept of hard work has always been fundamental to manhood throughout eras. Although the tools, settings, and expectations have changed, the burden is still very much the same for men today—possibly more so than it was for their fathers or grandfathers.
Is the modern male really putting in more effort than men from former generations?

Plenty of men are working harder than ever in terms of the economy. Although new job categories and remote work options have been made possible by innovations in technology, many people's incomes have remained stagnant in comparison to cpi and the costs of living. For instance, since the 1980s, the cost of housing, healthcare, and education have substantially outpaced income growth in many Western economies. This means that to preserve the middle-class lifestyle that their dads may have attained with a single paycheck, today's men frequently need to work numerous jobs or pursue ongoing extracurricular activities.

A stable employment with benefits has given way to a mixture of employment insecurity and round-the-clock connectedness. The necessity for ongoing networking and upskilling tasks that aren't measurable in hours worked, demand a lot of mental and physical energy, has replaced job stability.

The greater involvement of fathers in their children's life is another characteristic that sets this generation apart from earlier ones. Higher expectations for active parenting, household participation, and emotional involvement are aspects of modern fatherhood. In contrast to the past, when the ideal man would have devoted most of his time to earning a living outside the home, today's father is frequently expected to attend parent-teacher conferences, change diapers, and divide household chores while still working.

This is work, but it's not necessarily a hardship. Time management, emotional labor, and striking a work-life balance are all difficult tasks. It calls for different kinds of sensitivity, patience, and strength that were not as strongly entrenched in the previous generation.

In terms of mental health, it may be one of the most obvious differences between generations. Even while men are talking more openly about burnout, anxiety, and depression these days, they are still not receiving the support they require. Even if it has decreased, the stigma still persists. Emotional tiredness can result from social isolation, financial strain, and the urge to "be everything to everyone."

The man of today is frequently torn between traditional values and modern aspirations. Men were trained to suppress their emotions and gauge their value by their production by traditional masculinity. Self-care and emotional transparency are encouraged by new standards, but they don't necessarily provide the institutional support required to make the change long-lasting. Many men are stuck trying to change while being evaluated using outdated standards of success.

Men today face a kind of identity crisis. The pressure to succeed and comparisons are exacerbated by social media. Peer-curated lives, the ideal figure, the successful career, the contented family, the balanced lifestyle, become standards. The emotional impact of continuously failing in the eyes of the internet is significant, even though the reality behind such pictures is frequently chaotic.

Many males have also been compelled to reconsider their social positions as a result of discussions about privilege and power. Some find this enlightening and empowering, while others find it confusing. Men were taught to respect "hard work," but navigating this terrain required emotional labor, introspection, and frequently difficult self-reckoning.

Does the modern man put in more effort than his predecessors? Maybe not always in an hourly or purely bodily sense. Average work hours may be more flexible, and fewer males are performing manual labor. However, the answer is yes when we expand the meaning of "work" to encompass parenting, maintaining mental health, emotional labor, and negotiating a social environment that is becoming more complicated.

The modern man may not be working twelve hours a day in a factory, but he is still expected to be a good worker, a good father, a support system for his partner and have healthy mind, although it's not quite as difficult, it's still challenging. Perhaps more difficult...

Man; Klip of Rots?

Geskryf deur Andre L Booysen

“ ʼn man is nie ʼn klip nie.” – Dit is die gesegde wat die tradisionele huisvrou destyds gebruik het om iemand te laat verstaan dat mans altyd skoonheid sal raak sien, en dat hy altyd sal ingee tot sy natuurlike drange of versoeking.
Dis vir hierdie rede dat vroue seker gemaak het om so veel as moontlik aan hul mans se natuurlike ‘behoeftes’  te voorsien; sodat die getroude man dit op ʼn ander plek sou gaan soek nie; Hetsy hierdie behoeftes in die slaapkamer, eetkamer of buitemuurs was.

“My man is my rots” – dit is wat die moderne werkende vrou sê. Dié gesegde beklemtoon die feit dat sy altyd op haar man kan staatmaak om haar te ondersteun met alles wat sy aanpak. Sy hoef nie aan ál sy behoeftes te voorsien nie want hy kan kosmaak, skoonmaak, pa wees, man wees en so af en die huis-sielkundige ook.
Hy is ook in beheer van sy natuurlike drange; so selfs in die slaapkamer is hy geduldig om te wag tot wanneer die intieme aktiwiteit plaasvind.

Wel, vir ʼn geruime tyd het ek my bedenkinge oor beide hierde stellings; maar ek weet albei kan nie waar wees vir jou man nie. As hy ʼn klip is, dan is hy jou rots; en as hy nie ʼn klip is nie, dan is hy beslis nie jou rots nie.

So my vraag is, watter stelling is korrek ? Die van die tradisionele huisvrou ? of die van die moderne werkende vrou ?

Ek dink dit net goed om my klippie in die water te gooi. Destyds het huwelike langer gehou en in 1990 was die egskeidingsyfer 1.7%. In 2022 is die egskeidingsyfer sowat tussen 40-50%, afgesien van die feit dat 87 tot 88% van mans en vroue hulle eerste huwelike eindig.
Ek dink dit is duidelik dat wanneer vroue meer oplettend is aan hul mans, die huwelik langer hou – en wanneer vroue bewus is van die feit dat mans nie klippe is nie, blyk dit asof die huwelik langer hou. Hier is dan ʼn baie belangrike vraag – was die tradisionele huisvrou meer gelukkig as die moderne werkende vrou ? Miskien nie, maar daar was stabiliteit vir alles partye, insluitend die kinders.

Ek moet bieg; in hierdie artikel word baie dinge nie beklemtoon nie – redes vir egskeidings, die rol wat mans in die huwelik speel, die verantwoordelikheid wat die man het teenoor sy vrou het vroue mishandeling.